Kristine's Passing

In Loving Memory

KRISTINE BECKER

8/21/1970 - 12/25/2009

Kristine Ann Becker passed away at 3pm on Christmas Day 2009 after a three year battle with cancer. She was taken by ambulance to the Pennsylvania Hospital ER and later the ICU. Unfortunately her compromised kidneys, lungs and heart as well as natural fatigue were too much for her frail body to handle. She passed away peacefully in my arms.

We are currently working through arrangements and will provide further details in the coming days. Kristine requested that we not host a service for her. We have not yet determined if or when an alternative event will be planned. Kristine's parents and sisters are in town to help.

Kristine is a beautiful woman and she will be badly missed. Please continue to check back for more information and thoughts.

No Stone Unturned

A few months ago Kristine and I both separately hired a medium (one who communicates with spirits) for a phone sitting. We had heard about this women from a friend of Kristine's. Her friend has seen several psychics in the time we have known her, but none whose readings have been so accurate. Typically when people relay what they've been told by a psychic the message usually includes nothing more than ambiguous statements lacking much, if any, specificity. The messages are, in turn, embellished by the recipient to draw his or her own customized and suitable conclusion. This women on the other hand named individual names (i.e., spirits) and gave striking details about them and their relationships with the recipient. She does her readings without ever asking one question accept to validate that her interpretations make sense.

We set up our appointments separately and were careful that the medium could not link the two of us together (for example, I gave her an email address I use infrequently so that she could not Google me and find the blog). We wanted to see if she gave us consistent and unaided messages. Frankly, I admit that I was not at all a believer going into this reading. I was intrigued by the description of our friend's experience, but intrigue is far from faith. It has been my general, and usually unpopular, belief that death is followed by nothing more than our decomposed bodies as fertilizer for the earth. However, what followed certainly changed my mind and reoriented my perspective. It resurrected a hopefulness and comfort in me about our current circumstance no matter the actual outcome.

The medium, true to expectation, described specific spirits in both Kristine's and my reading. She told Kristine that her grandmother on her mother's side was in her presence and proceeded to accurately describe her ailments in the last decade of her life. She told me that my grandmother also on my mother's side was present, that she had died when I was very young and that we were very close and connected in the last years of her life (a signature memory of mine in defining my relationship with her). In one of the most chilling recounts of Kristine's past my grandmother, through the medium, said that exactly 2 years earlier (she was very specific about the timing), "[The doctors] got the dosage wrong." This was chilling because it was exactly 2 years, to the month, prior that Kristine had received her last treatment of chemotherapy. And it was this treatment cycle from which she encountered severe hallucinations due to an elevated dose. The medium went on, for both Kristine and me, to give a combination of accurate statements about our past and present lives and predictions about our futures as expressed by the visiting spirits.

While the readings from our pasts provided the necessary validation of her abilities, we were most interested in hearing about her predictions for Kristine's future health and well-being -- our key purpose in employing her talent. To Kristine's and my guarded exultation the medium made something very clear, Kristine still has more work to here.

The medium continually described Kristine's life after her disease and how she would use her experience from illness to help others. She spoke of Kristine's fear that additional chemotherapy would finish her and explained that her feeling, according to the spirits, was warranted. She envisioned Kristine resolving her disease using a combination of holistic and conventional means. She interestingly sited the primarily factor in her long term recovery to be though nutrition and further sited that her diet going forward would be less restrictive than it had been in the past (again the medium was not made aware of any dietary measures Kristine had taken).

In my session, I pushed harder to uncover a more concrete path for how this implausible outcome would play out. And although I did not get an exact answer I did get some leads with which to work. The medium told me that Kristine would see a nutritionist who would play a crucial role in her recovery and help her to form a long term pattern of health. She also described Kristine's cancer as being very unique and explained that her recover will be equally as unique.

This is a long set up for the present -- the genesis of a new chapter of trusting life and following our instincts even if it means disobeying logic and naively disregarding what seems inevitable. I attempted to expedite our prescribed fate and sought out a local nutritionist. (Of course, it's unclear whether this was actually a manipulation of fate or just a tangential path ultimately leading to the same predetermined outcome.)

We saw the nutritionist for several weeks before she sent us an email regarding an alternative medical center. It was one that I had heard of before from a few other sources but ignored due to its location in Mexico (a common migration point for homeopathic doctors driven out of the US by the FDA). Her colleague successfully beat his cancer following the center's program. Doing subsequent research on the web I ran across a list of people who had eliminated their cancers through a variety of different naturopathic methods and had volunteered to be contacted. Fortuitously the only sarcoma survivor on the list had had leiomyosarcoma (the same subtype as Kristine) and had attended the same center that our nutritionist had recommended.

Well, this was too strong of a coincidence to ignore. I called the man to confirm and learn more about his story. Prior to going to the center his cancer had spread to his pancreas, lungs and liver. He was 39 when diagnosed and had several surgeries to remove malignant masses. He told me that within 4 months on the center's treatment his check up scans showed stable disease, within 6 months his tumors started to reduce in size and within a year all of his tumors were completely undetectable. His oncologist told him that he didn't want to know what he was doing but whatever it was to keep it up. He shared a number of stories with me about people he had met through his yearly check up visits to the center who had similar experiences.

At the man's suggestion I called the homeopathic doctor at the facility. He told me that based on Kristine's advanced stage and type of cancer the chances of the treatment's success were certainly reduced but that it depended on the individual. Typically they like to evaluate the patient in person, but he felt it best that Kristine not make the trip in her current state of health. So instead I made the trip and discuss the treatment on her behalf. In just two weeks I organized my travel plans and headed to meet with a homeopathic doctor in Mexico. Kristine's mother and sister flew in for a short time to help Kristine while I was away.

In the last few weeks Kristine's condition has deteriorated at a faster pace. She is unable to attend physical therapy any longer, she now relies on Oxygen almost constantly to prevent labored breathing, new tumors continue to spring up daily in random locations throughout her body and she seldom finds relief from the pain caused by the tumors on her head, shoulder, back and abdomen. She will receive Cyberknife radiation on her shoulder (in hopes that it will improve her range of motion which currently restricts her from even feeding herself) and a large tumor under her left breast (which has burst open recently causing an exposed wound). The only other conventional options are in trial phases, which Kristine does not qualify for in her condition (including Pazopanib and Yondelis as recommended by some of the blog's readers, thank you by the way) or are not currently open to new patience (Rexin-g). So unless one of these drugs is fast tracked due to an overwhelming success in trial none are viable options.

I've hesitated to be candid about this chapter in Kristine's cancer fight. I realize that some of the unorthodox tactics we have pursued inevitably bring intense skepticism and judgement. (Even though it's not as if we have ignored conventional tactics entirely.) But as I sat alone in a hotel room 3000 miles away from Kristine over the weekend, my solitude compelled me to share this current phase of an unrelenting quest to save her life no matter how crazy it might seem. In a way, this part of our story speaks to the desperation we face to find hope under any stone that has yet to be turned, not wanting to look back with regret. To walk away from a belief that anything is possible is walking away from the wonders of a miraculous universe that displays its powers in unusual ways. You can call it God or energy or chaos. You can accept or deny that we have a hand in the outcomes it prescribes. But you can't deny its existence. For Kristine and me this means putting our faith in the fight and not going down settling for what seems to be an inevitable fall. As Neil Young said in the song Out of the Blue, "it's better to burn out than to fade away." We will fight on and keep trusting our instincts knowing that our pursuit, hope and faith never faded.

Restless Nights

It is Sunday in the early evening. I am writing this post by Kristine's bedside. For the last couple of hours she has been in a cycle of sleeping and waking states. When she's sleeping she's restless. Her arm and hand move about as if she were trying to grab hold of a cup or pet an animal. She blurts out full sentences, dialog from the scene of a dream she is having with a character in her subconscious. When awake she's partly aware and partly confused, generally unsure of her surroundings. She has asked me several times (not remembering that she asked me just twenty minutes earlier) when we got home, even though we haven't left the house all day.

The likely reason for Kristine's condition is a negative reaction to a new pain medication she was prescribed and has been taking for a couple of days. However, the confusion is none-the-less concerning. Kristine has a very small tumor in her brain, for which a sign of possible complication is confusion. Further, her last dose of the medication was yesterday morning, so the effect from the drug should have already run its course. To be extra cautious I paged the oncologist on-call. He felt that the symptoms were not of immediate concern and that Kristine should be evaluated in the morning to be sure that she regains full mental capacity. We'll see how she is mentally in the tomorrow.

Unfortunately, another issue surfaced tonight that may also require attention in the morning (it's no surprise since these things seem to come in pairs). While I was massaging Kristine's neck to calm her down, I noticed that her pulse was not beating in a fluid rhythm. Her heart beat had reverted back to an abnormal pattern due to her cardiac arrhythmia, which is normally managed through medication. If this condition does not correct itself by morning we will have to see our cardiologist first thing tomorrow and likely have to spend the day in the hospital to get another cardioversion procedure done. Regardless of what the morning brings it looks like we maybe in for another long, sleepless night. We'll need some closure before we can breath any easier.

I should back up a little and provide an update on how Kristine has been progressing over the last couple of weeks. We saw our oncologist two weeks ago. We had a few objectives for our visit. First, Kristine has been having an increasingly hard time breathing recently, especially when she exerts herself. The doctor confirmed our concern. On the examination table Kristine's oxygen level was 95%. When she got up and walked just a few steps her pulse oximeter reading dropped to 88%, indicating that she was not getting enough oxygen through her limited lung capacity. Our Oncologist quickly called in an order for oxygen, which was delivered to our house that night. Our second objective was to discuss a clinic trial for a less toxic drug option being conducted out of our cancer center. Unfortunately, Kristine's advanced condition disqualifies her for the study. Finally, we wanted to discuss pain medication. At the time of our visit, Kristine was having stabbing pains in her back caused by tumor growth pressing against a muscle or nerve. He prescribed a long lasting pain med, however, it was this medication that led us to the situation I described above.

We received the results back from Kristine's brain MRI. Our Neurosurgeon was not concerned and did not feel that any immediate action was necessary -- the tumor has progressed very little from the previous scan.

Kristine continues to push on, but the battle is taking its toll on her mentally and physically. The pain in her back has subsided, but has been replaced by pain and discomfort in her right shoulder where several tumors have enlarged and hardened the area. The tightness this has created has made it difficult for her to use her one good arm. Additionally, in the last few days, both of Kristine's arms and hands have swollen to one and a half times their normal size. This is due to a build up of fluid in the lymphatic system known as lymphedema. The lymphatic system is unable to expel fluid from the limbs due to either a blockage of the pathways or a breach of the nodes themselves from tumor growth. The condition does not seem to be painful but is fairly uncomfortable and unnerving. We have an appointment on Tuesday with the Cyberknife radiologist to discuss potential treatment of the area. It is our hope that Kristine can see some relief from this procedure and regain a broader range of motion in her right arm. Without some form of relief Kristine will continue to struggle even more than she already does with daily tasks.

Burned Out

I know it has been a while since our last post and I apologize for not having written sooner. I guess I've been putting it off in hopes of having some good news to share for a change. You have to understand how frustrating it is to keep up this blog with only the rare chance to share positive news.

Kristine and I are both burned out. We're tired, frustrated and worn thin after almost 3 years of this battle. We have been hanging on to the hope and promise of a better day. A day when Kristine can live carefree again; a day without pain; a day where we don't have to worry about cancer and where in Kristine's body it will rear its ugly head next; a day when neither of us breaks into tears struggling to understand WHY this is happening; a day when we can finally just hold one another and feel safe with the idea that there's nothing imminently pulling the other away; a day when we can just live out a normal day. But our hope is being tested. We feel like we're in a dark hole with no clear exit and we're running out of time.

Over the past few weeks, several new tumors have emerged throughout Kristine's body. She now has 18 tumors of various sizes within the perimeter of the hairline on her head. She has a marble sized tumor that is growing just under her left breast with small tentacles reaching out in several directions, another small lump midway down her back just to the left of her spine and still another pea sized lump further down her back. There are three small lumps that we can feel in her abdomen accompanied by swelling and pain in her left abdominal side. Her right shoulder has swollen in size as the cancer continues to compromise the lymph nodes. The veins in her right arm and chest protrude with increased pressure as the swelling and pain limit the use of Kristine's only functional upper limb. Kristine's cough has continued to worsen and she increasingly finds herself short of breath with any moderate physical exertion.

Even scarier than the tumors that we can feel are those that we can't. We know that there are small tumors on Kristine's adrenal glands just above the kidneys, but this is based on observations of her chest scan -- a scan of the abdomen was not conducted. At this point I'm not sure that either of us wants to know. Having knowledge up until this point helped to manage our decisions. Kristine chose to radiate specific tumors before they became an issue. However, without good options to solve the problem, knowledge of additional internal tumors is just cause for greater anxiety.

Mentally, Kristine is quite volatile but increasingly more depressed. She rarely makes it through the day without breaking down in tears. Her mood is mostly affected by the pain she is experiencing. She is taking Vicodin, which seems to calm her but doesn't suppress the pain entirely. Her sedentary state, frustration with a relentless cough and other medications are all contributing factors to a weakened emotional fortitude. To keep herself from slipping into depression she preoccupies her mind with iPhone games and television shows on DVR. She has been withdrawing from conversation with friends lately as well to avoid the questions about her health. The thought of having to discuss the progress of her disease and answer questions about what she is doing next overwhelms her. She enjoys listening to others talk about what's going on in their lives, no matter how mundane, as long as it doesn't turn back into questioning about her.

Kristine is still attending Physical Therapy three days a week. This is a positive source of motivation and energy. We have lost two of our four weekday helping crew, one to reemployment and another to child care issues. One of Kristine's friends has generously stepped up to take on three days, but I'm concerned that this may be too much to ask. The way Kristine is progressing we may need to explore professional help. This, of course, comes with a huge mental stigma attached, with which Kristine will have trouble coming to terms.

We need a renewed sense of hope and change of direction. That's all for now.

Trials and Tribulations

Kristine's mother left Philadelphia a week ago this past Friday. It was great having her in town for a couple of weeks to help. Kristine enjoys having her company and I enjoy getting a little break from the routine. I took this past week off from work to cover some gaps we had in our schedule of weekday helpers, spend some time with Kristine and generally try to recover from burnout. You don't realize how fatigue you really are until you slow things down for a while.

There has been a lot of news since the last post. A couple of weeks ago Kristine had to go into the hospital for another cardioversion to regulate her heart rate, which had again accelerated to double the normal rate. The procedure was relatively quick this time around, only requiring a day long out-patient visit. Kristine had another seizure while she was home in bad, this one lasting longer than the others, a full two minutes. Even more worrisome is the fact that the time lapsed between seizures has shortened with each episode -- this one occurring less than a month since the last.

Kristine got the results back from her latest scans. Generally speaking all of her existing tumors have remained stable or increased in size. There are also several new lesions that are cause for concern, but without immediate nor obvious action plans stacked against them. There is one very small, new tumor in the frontal lobe of Kristine's brain (which controls a number of complex cognitive functions such as decision making and memory). Our neurosurgeon is addressing this new lesion with our Oncologist. However, he initially felt that the best course of action was to wait and revisit the mass in a month when Gamma Knife radiation would be considered depending on its progression and size. Additionally, it appears that Kristine's disease has spread to her adrenal glands (those that sit on top of the kidneys). This is concerning for a number of reasons but chiefly because of the proximity to the kidneys and the indication of a broader spread of disease throughout the body beyond her upper thorax.

Kristine is still in a lot of pain from the spasms in her back. And while the pain in her left shoulder blade has subsided, it has been replaced with a sharp pain throughout her right arm stemming from swelling in the lymph nodes in her armpit and shoulder. The pain in her back and arm are causing her the most discomfort, which is only partially alleviated when she is resting in bed.

Kristine has started her new holistic treatment. It is too soon to tell whether it's having any beneficial effects. Though Kristine has noticed some swelling at many of her cancer sights (for example, the several tumors on the top of her head). The treatment is known to cause swelling as it affects the cancer cells, but only time will tell whether the treatment is impacting the tumors' size.

In the meantime, we are looking into a couple of clinical trials. We are skeptical of most trials. Even those in second or third phases of study often have success rates below 40%. So when you consider that only half of the participants in the study are given the actual drug (the other half are administered a placebo to be certain that it's the drug and not some other factor producing the same results) the chances of seeing any success from a study are lowered to less than 20%. Additionally, "success" in sarcoma trials usually just means slower progression not reversal of disease. So essentially there is less than a 20% chance of seeing your disease slow down and a greater than 80% chance of being exposed to a new unproven treatment that could prove to be more harmful than doing nothing at all. The early results have to be pretty compelling for us to go down that path.

Overwhelmed

Kristine has been in a lot of pain the last couple of weeks stemming primarily from the muscles in her upper back. On the right side, her muscles frequently launch into spasm lasting anywhere from one to ten minutes. It isn't clear exactly what's causing the spasms, but they are likely the result of either overcompensation for her paralyzed left side or interference of the muscles by tumor masses in her lymph nodes. On her left side, the muscles in her back that hold the shoulder blade in place have started to weaken due to inactivity. Kristine was kept away from physical therapy for several weeks while she received radiation to lymph node tumors in her right shoulder and neck. With no strength in the musculature to hold them in place, her left arm and shoulder have rolled forward pulling on the back muscles and inducing extreme discomfort. Kristine tried taking a muscle relaxer to relieve the pain. The trouble was, while it ameliorated the spasms on her right side, the medication did little to relieve the tension on the left. More concerning was that the prescribed pharma interfered with Kristine's breathing, leaving her already compromised lungs gasping for air. The situation has left Kristine in a Catch 22 -- the pain makes it difficult for Kristine to work on strengthening the muscles, but only strengthening can resolve the pain.

Several doctors' appointments are on the agenda for this week and Kristine's mom will be on hand in Philadelphia to help. Kristine is scheduled to see our primary care physician to get some options to manage her muscle pain. She will also get his recommendation for a good physiatrist since ours has turned out to be somewhat of a deadbeat -- not returning a single request for call back.

Also this week, Kristine will get her regular check up scans. She will have CT scans taken of her chest, shoulder and neck and an MRI of her brain to evaluate and measure the progress of her disease. The anticipation leading up to and the frustration that often follows the scan results is emotionally taxing. The reports rarely bring positive news and are never accompanied by solutions to fix the underlying problem. Our expectations for this round of scans are low though as we see clear signs of disease progression. The first is a serious of tumors on the surface of Kristine's head within the perimeter of her hairline. Although only two have reached a large size -- about that of a grape -- several more have continued to enlarge and still others have developed anew. Another visible sign that has reared its ugly head in just the last week is a small lump that has formed at the lower crease below Kristine's left breast. The signs are especially troubling as they represent what is likely just the tip of the proverbial iceberg, leaving us anxiously wondering what might lie beneath the surface.

We have both conceded that the herbs Kristine has been taking over the last several months are not working to reverse the progress of her disease. She is still taking the supplements and herbs until we move on to our next option in the case that they are having a slowing effect on the advancement of her cancer. We both remember the condition she was in prior to beginning the herbal treatment and hate to have her fall back into that state. There is another natural option that Kristine will begin taking after her scans are complete. It has the most evidence from conventional research of anticancer success than anything else we have tried to date. I'll talk more about that in later posts once we've had a chance to evaluate its impact.

Overall Kristine is feeling frustrated, dejected and overwhelmed by her situation. She feels like the progress she has made physically to improve her mobility over the last several months is quickly being reversed. Mostly she is just exhausted from being in pain. Her emotional breakdowns come more frequently these days. Kristine tries to compose herself during the day with her friends and helpers until she can release her emotions with me at the end of the day, but even this has become difficult.

We are still holding on to hope even if it is by a string. Hope that an answer, a solution, is around the corner.

Birthday Visitors

The last couple of weeks have been good, at least as weeks go for us. Kristine started another 5 day Cyberknife radiation cycle last week to shrink another tumor in a lymph node on her neck. This one is much smaller than the one on her shoulder, but was causing discomfort nonetheless. The treatment seems to have already relieve some of the pain.

She's also started another type of radiation to tackle a small subcutaneous tumor on the back of her head. There are about eight tumors that have formed just under the skin on her head. Most of them are very small, but one has reached the size of a garlic clove and causes pain when she sleeps due to its location. This new treatment emits radiation to only a very targeted area limiting its impact on healthy cells. Kristine will only receive this treatment for 5 days.

Last Friday was Kristine's birthday and the two year anniversary of her heart surgery. Her three sisters came into visit and celebrate over the weekend. Things stayed pretty relaxed, but we did manage to get out to dinner each night they were here. Kristine's cousin Cris is also in town at the end of this week. So, as always, we have the visitors rolling into Philly.

New Discovery

This has been an event filled week. I hoped not to have any more to talk about after the last few posts this last week, but unfortunately there's more to tell. After getting out of the hospital on Wednesday afternoon, Kristine decided that she needed a little adventure. So we hopped in the car and headed to the King of Prussia Mall. This is truly one of the unique qualities about Kristine. She can have a heart procedure done one day and be ready for shopping the next. Her heart rhythm has been fine since the cardioversion procedure (and the trip to the mall).

On Friday, I had my own doctors appointment in the morning, which thankfully did nothing more than to confirm my good health. I worked from home in the afternoon jumping on several conference calls. My last call of the day was just about ending when Kristine yelled my name from the next room. I ran in to see her clenching her left arm as she told me she was starting to have another seizure. I abruptly hung up the phone and ran to her side. The seizure seemed to last a bit longer than previous episodes. Fortunately, there were no lasting side effects and Kristine quickly regained her muscle control.

That evening we sat outside to get some fresh air and relax after the earlier event. Kristine was rubbing her back when she felt a hard lump on the lower right side. This new discovery, which we surmise to be a likely tumor growth potentially in or near her kidney, is very concerning. The finding sent Kristine into a depressed state the rest of the weekend. She's had trouble staying positive the last few days and started to lose a bit of hope. I'm sure she will bounce back. She just needs some time to regain her energy and strength again after a tough week.

This upcoming week we will be talking to our oncologist and the CyberKnife center to discuss some next steps. Here's hoping for a good, uneventful week ahead.

Without Missing a Beat

Kristine's day at the hospital went off without a hitch. She was a little groggy at first but bounced back to herself in no time. The procedure was successful. Her heart is beating in a steady, normal sinus rhythm at about 70-80 bpm. She is spending the night in the hospital for monitoring, but everything looks good so far.

Shocking

As promised here is an update on Kristine, the second this week.

We were able to get into see the cardiologist on Monday to discuss Kristine's irregular heart rate. Our regular doctor is away on vacation this week, so we saw another cardiologist, Dr. Wong. After reading Kristine's history and the print out of the ECG, she jumped right into describing the problem and the game plan to correct it.

Kristine has a cardiac arrhythmia (abnormal heart rhythm) called atrial fibrillation. As an effect of the extensive scar tissue left from her earlier heart surgery, the electrical paths that travel around the heart and make it beat in a proper rhythm have been interrupted. This results in the top chambers of the heart (atria) beating too fast and quivering, leaving them out of sync with the bottom chambers (ventricles). This is cause for concern because blood can pool in the heart increasing the potential for blood clots to form. Atrial fibrillation presents several risks. The pooled blood in the heart can form clots that can travel to the brain and clog arteries, which in turn can cause a stroke. Additionally, the increased heart rate can weaken the heart's muscle and cause heart failure.

There are a few options to correct the condition. For otherwise healthy individuals, surgical or catheter-based options are often used. For Kristine, a less invasive method will be explored. Her condition will be treated with synchronized electrical cardioversion. This is basically a shock to the heart to reset the electrically impulses to a normal rhythm. Additionally, Kristine will be treated with medication to help regulate the heart rate.

Kristine was admitted to the hospital today (Tuesday). The procedure is fairly routine lasting only about an hour. Kristine will be under anesthesia for just a short time while they apply the treatment. Typically this would be handled as a day patient procedure, however, our doctors want Kristine to stay overnight for monitoring to ensure that she tolerates the medication and that her heart rate is functioning normally.

I am in the waiting room as I type. Kristine's name is still not on the status board, so it may be some time before she is done. I will post another update this afternoon to let you all know how she fared.

Beats per Minute

Kristine finished the last of her five Cyberknife treatments on Friday. We will not know for sure if the radiation worked to shrink the tumor for a couple of weeks. It does look as if the tumor is flatter than before and the Radiation Oncologist said that it felt soft to the touch. These are good signs, however, the area is still pretty swollen so only time will tell.

Toward the end of the week (Thursday and Friday) Kristine started complaining of a sharp pain in the right side of her head and another in her left thigh. Both sharp, stabbing and acute pains that seemed to start simultaneously. Additionally, her heart rate began to beat rapidly. On Friday, when they took her vitals at the Cyberknife clinic her resting heart rate was 160 beats per minute. To put that in perspective my resting heart rate is 60 bpm. The doctor expressed his concern and advised that she go to the ER as a precaution. He explained that the radiation was not the likely cause of any of the symptoms she was having and that they could be indicators of something more serious. Kristine debated going to the emergency room Friday evening. In the end, she refused and decided to wait and watch her symptoms despite the push from me and her parents to take the more conservative path.

Kristine's parents went back home to Michigan on Saturday, leaving Kristine and I to ourselves for the first time in a few weeks. It is always fun and helpful to have them here, but we also enjoy are private time together. By Sunday, Kristine's head and leg pain had vanished leaving us to question the coincidence in timing of the pain and the radiation. Her rapid heart beat had also slowed to a resting rate that fluctuated between high and normal (100-60bpm). Kristine finally did agree to see our cardiologist as soon as possible on Monday. She dreads what's in store -- EKG, Echo cardiogram, Holter monitor and potentially a hospital stay -- but acknowledges the need to take the precaution.

Provided everything goes well tomorrow I'll post as usual next week. If, however, there is news to share I'll try to add a post in the next few days.

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I also wanted to share a couple of interesting articles and clarify some recent news that has been published. Recently British researchers published findings that organic foods were no more nutritious than non-organic foods. While this very well may be true many people likely took away from this news that organic foods have no benefit at all. In fact, what the researchers concluded was simply that the nutrients found in organic and non-organic foods were very similar. They explicitly stated that the purpose of their research did NOT aim to understand the long term impact to humans of insecticides, herbicides, hormones, antibiotics or the genetic modification of foods -- these being the leading drivers for people to switch to organic foods. While many claim that the amount of chemicals found in non-organic foods are found at "safe" levels, the definition of safe and accumulative impact of these chemicals over time is what needs to be called into question.

Here is a link to information on the differences between organic and non-organic foods from the Mayo Clinic. Organic vs. Non-Organic

Kristine has at one time written about the potentially negative impacts of microwaves. Here is an article that dispels some of the myths. Notably, while radiation emitted from microwaves is deemed to occur at "safe" levels (there is that word again) it is considered dangerous to cook your meals in plastic of any kind, even if they say "microwave safe." Microwave Myths

Finally, WebMD has a great interactive mirosite that shows you some hidden hazards in your home. I was surprised at some of the things that were listed. WebMD Health eHome

Cyber Monday

Kristine and I finally recovered from whatever flu we both caught. It lasted about a week and a half and we both agree it was one of the worst either of us has ever had. Since regaining our relative health we've been pretty busy getting our lives back in order. We have also been playing host to a stream of visitors over the past couple of weeks. Kristine's parents and two of her sisters have been in town to help Kristine and, of course, squeeze in a few games of cards.

Kristine got the green light a week ago to start Cyberknife radiation therapy on the tumor in her shoulder. The tumor (originating in a lymph node) has reached about half the size of a tennis ball, and as a result, is causing Kristine a great deal of pain as it puts increasing pressure on the nerves and muscles in the area. She begins Cyberknife at Delaware County Hospital (one of the few and first places in the area with a Cyberknife center and an affiliate of Fox Chase Cancer Center) this Monday. The procedure lasts about an hour a day for a duration of just five days. There are some risks like potential damage to the skin, nerves and bone in the direct area. However, the alternative is to do nothing which will result in certain damage, including the possible loss of the use of her only good arm. There is also a chance that the procedure will not work -- sarcomas are generally radiation resistant. But Kristine has seen success with Gamma Knife radiation therapy, very similar to Cyberknife. She therefore has a better chance of success. The radiation oncologist advised that, if all goes well, she should see results (that is tumor shrinkage) within a of couple weeks and even as quickly as one week.

We'll keep you updated on how the procedure goes.

A Tough Week

Our Fourth of July weekend ended up being anything but celebratory. It started on Thursday when we met with our Oncologist to review Kristine's latest scans. After some disappointing news at her last appointment (three months prior) we both felt hopeless and anxious about what was to come. It was only a month later that we were introduced to the Herbalist, giving us a renewed glimmer of hope. The herbs that Kristine started taking did wonders to rejuvenate her energy level and mental state. But the true test of whether the remedies were working would be in the results of her scans. On Thursday, we found out that all of her existing lung and lymph node tumors increased in size. Additionally, there are some new small nodules in her lung that have surfaced. Even though Kristine and I both knew what to expect (Kristine's shoulder tumor is distinctly larger) we were none-the-less disappointed by the news.

The Oncologist didn't offer many options knowing that Kristine has not been open to going through chemotherapy again. There was one exchange were Kristine said that unless he had something that could cure her disease she was not open to chemo. The doctor responded that the latest drugs could offer her an extra six months or more. Kristine retorted, noting that it would come at the cost of her quality of life. She did, however, express an interest in Radiation if a more targeted approach could be taken, like that used in her Gamma Knife operation that seemed to be effective on her type of sarcoma. The doctor jumped at Kristine's willingness. He picked up the phone and arranged for an appointment with the Radiologist for this coming Tuesday.

We were both quite depressed the rest of the day and neither of us slept much that night, our minds preoccupied with sadness over the new information. Our sadness continued into Friday. To top things off, I was bedridden with a bad cold the entire weekend (fever, cough, body ache, chills and fatigue) the fever and cough from which are still lingering. And, as if she didn't have enough physical challenges to deal with Kristine started displaying symptoms of the same vicious cold on Sunday afternoon at a wedding we were attending outside of Philadelphia. Kristine left reluctantly just before the reception. In hindsight her 102 degree temperature more than validated the decision.

Two of Kristine's sisters were scheduled to come in this week from Michigan, one with her newborn baby. But now with our house being a hotbed of germs they have opted to postpone their trip by a week or two.

Kristine will continue to take the herbs to see if the new regiment is any more successful at providing results. On Tuesday, when we meet with Radiologist we will be insistent on using the most advanced and targeted procedures and equipment possible. I've already done the research to know the various methods (brands) available that have shown success with sarcoma. If we have to go somewhere else to explore our options we will do so. After all this isn't just about prolonging Kristine's life and alleviating her pain it's about buying her quality time in hopes of discovering a lasting solution.

We are really hoping to catch a break one of these days!

The Kitchen Sink

Kristine got some good news today, Tuesday. Her brain scan revealed no new disease and that the one remaining tumor, radiated earlier with Gamma Knife, continues to shrink. This was a much needed confidence boost after last week's seizure and as we head into an appointment with our Oncologist on Thursday to discuss the tumors in her lung and lymph nodes.

Our appointment with the Herbalist last week went well. He changed a couple of the herbs that he prescribed for Kristine, but didn't complicate our daily routine too much more. Two of the herbs he added I had read about earlier as having some clinical research data suggesting success in treating cancer cells. So I was surprised when he recommended them.

Kristine is doing pretty well all in all. She continues to have some pain in her right arm from the shoulder tumor that seems to be pinching a nerve. And, just when we thought that our issues included everything but the kitchen sink, our kitchen sink is completely clogged. We've been without both our sink and our air conditioning for a couple of days. The sink has a deep clog that our plumber's snake couldn't budge (old plumbing) and our forced air's blowing unit was pronounced dead by our appliance guy after one of only a few hot spells we've had all summer. All we can do is just take a deep breath and keep moving forward knowing that for any problem that's thrown our way a solution is not far to follow.

Recurring Episode

It occurred in the same place and at almost the same time of night as it had just five months ago.

Kristine was having a tough weekend. Saturday she started to have pain in her right arm and neck which continued through Sunday. We believe it is likely a symptom of the tumor in her shoulder that seems to have increased in size and may now be putting pressure on the nerves and muscles in the area.

The pain she was experiencing remained constant throughout the day. I was in and out of the house for the majority of the day leaving Kristine with just bad TV shows to watch and time for her mind to race as she dealt with her throbbing right extremity. Frustration over the pain she was forced to endure, loneliness from not having a companion with whom to commiserate, and disappointment over coming to terms with the idea that the herbal protocol we have both put our faith in may not be working left her dejected and sullen.

To help Kristine get her mind off of the pain and generally ease her mood, I got her into bed early that evening and started her massage. It seemed to work. She began to doze off at around 8:30pm. But it wasn't long after that she opened her eyes and said, with a slight panic in her tone, that her left arm had stiffened and her left hand had clenched into a tight fist on its own. This turned out to be an indicator of what was to come. Within seconds she began to seize. Like before (almost five months to the day) the left side of her body convulsed rhythmically. Her face, arm and leg jumped as the muscles contracted and released involuntarily. Fortunately, I was by her side while it happened and I grabbed hold of her from behind in an effort to comfort her until the episode passed.

When it was all over Kristine seemed to be left in a daze. She lost movement in her left side as before but regained it more quickly this time. About ten minutes later she asked if she had really had a seizure or if she had just dreamed it, indicating her lack of awareness during the incident.

The doctor told us after the last seizure that another could occur. They are most often triggered by physical stress like a fever or even the cabin pressure of an airplane. The trigger for this episode is unclear though. It could have been caused by the stress of Kristine's increased pain. However, we are nervous that there could be new developments in her brain.

We will see the herbalist on Tuesday, but due to our growing concern that his treatments are not having a sufficient impact we will also be exploring conventional options more aggressively. Kristine has said that she would be open to radiation on or resection of the shoulder lymph node(s) as long as the methods used are less general and more targeted.

The Fantastic Four

Throughout Kristine's illness there have been so many people who have reached out to help. Whether sharing their time or lending a hand, friends and family have demonstrated an extraordinary benevolence toward Kristine and I. Kristine's direct family -- mother, father and three sisters -- have been there for us every step of the way, through the best and worst of times.

But beyond Kristine's own family, there is a group of four women who have gone above and beyond for Kristine and to whom we owe our humble gratitude. Beth, Roey, Tony and Simone divide up each week. They come to our house in the morning and help Kristine to get showered, dressed and ready for the day. On Monday and Wednesday they help get her to the aquatic center in Cherry Hill for her rehab sessions. The rest of the week is all about errands and the more than occasional shopping trip, after all we are talking about Kristine.

These woman are amazing friends and truly special people. They share more than just their time, but an exceptional compassion and kindness that surpasses any that one would or could every expect. Kristine and I owe all of them a great deal of thanks for their unselfishness and generosity.

Thank you Beth, Roey, Tony and Simone for all you do.

One Step Back, Two Steps Forward

Kristine often feels like she just gets to where she can tolerate her collective set of ailments and a new one pops up. In the last few weeks her back has been the issue. The regular coughing fits and inability to sleep in any other position but on her back have caused muscle spasms and a good deal of pain. As you can imagine the accumulation of pain and discomfort take their toll both physically and mentally without the counterbalance of some noticeable signs of disease recession.

Kristine has stepped up her efforts at home to get her body back in shape and in working order. She has started walking without her cane in the house. She has also begun doing various exercises to strengthen her leg and arm muscles. Much of this renewed focus and hope is driven by the progress she continues to see in her aquatic physical therapy class. Her therapist regularly comments on the amazing advancements she demonstrates in just single sessions. She herself can see the progress with even the smallest movements, like being able to lift and hold her leg upright in the water. And in a huge step forward, just last week she started walking into the pool without assistance.

These little milestones are the things that keep her fighting. I get personal joy from hearing about the new things she's accomplished in her classes. She absolutely lights up every time she tells me about them. The energy and spirit she expresses make every ounce of this struggle worthwhile.

We are not scheduled see the herbalist until the end of the month. Kristine has several out of town visitors scheduled to come into Philly in the mean time to keep her entertained. This past weekend her very good friend JJ was in town from Chicago and this upcoming weekend another of her good friends, Alison, is visiting from San Francisco. Each visit gives us both a welcome break from the monotony.

Second Visit

We had our second visit with the herbalist last Tuesday.  The appointment went well.  Kristine was advised to remain on the same routine for another month.  He noticed immediately that Kristine was brighter and more energetic than she had been at her last visit, although he was concerned about how much she was coughing -- a symptom that has remained constant for several months now.  

Part of the herbalist's evaluation involves a procedure where he looks into his patients' eyes with a magnifying glass. (I have read some research that tested this alternative diagnostic approach and concluded it to be an ineffective and inaccurate tool.)  While looking into Kristine's eyes he casually asked if she had been having any back pain.  Interestingly, since our last visit with the herbalist Kristine had been getting spasms in the left side of her back, likely from the coughing fits.  The herbalist seemed to pick up on this right away without any mention of it from us.  This may have been just a coincidental finding, but we were none-the-less impressed by his unaided discovery.  He continued to express a positive prognosis for Kristine.

Two of Kristine's high school friends, Jill and Missy, were in Philadelphia this past weekend to visit and help.  Kristine enjoyed the visit and had fun reminiscing over old school days.  Visits from Kristine's friends and family are a welcome distraction from her regular routine.  Kristine has some additional visitors planned for the next few weeks.  

Other than that there is not much to report.  

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FYI-

In our quest to eliminate toxins from our daily lives we did want to pass along one product discovery with which we are particularly satisfied.  Major label deodorants with antiperspirant all contain Aluminum - a material known to increase the risk of cancer and thought to be a major cause of breast cancer.  The problem is that natural antiperspirant options are often worse than not wearing deodorant at all.  Kristine and I recently found a natural brand that actually works to deodorize and prevent sweating.  The brand is earth essentials and can be found at Whole Foods and other health food stores.  Even the unscented version works better than my old Speed Stick used to do.  Below is a photo of the product so you can find it more easily.  We highly recommend it.    

 

Herbal Cocktails

In the last blog post I talked a little bit about Kristine's new holistic regimen.  At the time, we thought we could quickly fall into a routine and not spend too much extra time managing all the steps. We did get on a routine, however, the regimen has taken up a whole lot more time than we anticipated.  

The prescribed holistic treatment consists mostly of drinkable supplements.  There are three that are mixed with a small amount of fruit juice (to cut the taste) and taken five times daily. Four other supplements are taken just two times daily.  The supplements are all made by the herbalist from his organic farm in Ohio.  Each bottle is clearly marked with its ingredients and includes a variety of plant based items ranging from the common (e.g., Witch Hazel, Flax Seed and Echinacea) to the obscure (e.g., Yellowdock, Graviola, Mugwort, Skunk Cabbage Root and Elderberry Leaf).

In addition to the herbal cocktails, there are several other nightly steps that were advised.  First, a nightly head to toe body rub down with olive oil. The idea is that olive oil is a good natural oil to lubricate during the massage, is loaded with antioxidants and supposedly is absorbed by the body through the skin.  The massage is supposed to increase the flow of the lymphatic system to aid in the expulsion of toxins and waste created from taking the herbs.  (I'm convinced that Kristine called ahead on this one -- nightly massages seem a little too good to be true for her). Second, every other night Kristine is to take a bath with a few tablespoons of Bentonite Clay mixed into the water.  This "clay" allegedly absorbs toxins and radiation that is excreted through the skin during the bath.  Finally, each night before bed Kristine has the bottoms of her feet covered in a salve (made by me) of crushed garlic and Vaseline, with which she sleeps through the night.  This is to aid the elimination of toxins.  The treatment stems from the Chinese and Japanese belief that the feet carry a great deal of toxins in our body.

Under normal circumstances, adding these items to our nightly ritual might not be that large of a time burden.  But with Kristine's condition, specifically the paralysis, everything takes longer.    

          

Admittedly some of these steps seem far-fetched, but we have committed to following every procedure prescribed to give the treatment the bes chance of success.  Kristine has only been on the program for two weeks, so it is still too soon to have seen any changes.  However, Kristine is feeling more energy than she has in some time and her emotional mood swings have disappeared.  She is still coughing a lot throughout the day, which causes her to become short of breath easily.

We had an appointment with our Oncologist last week.  He was not as concerned about the growth rate of the lung tumors as we were initially and, in fact, reported that some of the lymph node tumors had shrunk in size (this was prior to starting the herbal medication).        

We will be meeting with the Herbalist in a week and a half to discuss Kristine's progress and make adjustments to her regimen accordingly.  

Thanks for your patience these last couple of weeks while we get used to our new schedule.   

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Note about Skyping Kristine:  please text or call her first so that she can get the computer set up.   

New Regimen

I apologize for the delay in posting this week. I originally wanted to wait to fill you all in on our appointment with the Herbalist this past Tuesday. The problem is that he gave us some pretty extensive stuff to incorporate into our daily routine leaving little time for weekday evening blogging. So rather than leaving you completely in the dark all week, I thought I would give you all the quick scoop to tide you over until Sunday night.

Kristine's symptoms continue to cause more concern. Her cough is more frequent than in previous weeks and she has started to cough up small amounts of blood again. Her right shoulder and right side of her neck is in pain as the lymph nodes swell with tumor growth -- the lump on her shoulder sticking out about an inch high and measuring about 2 inches wide. She has developed painful and acute headaches on the right side of her head that continue on and off throughout the day. We do not have the scan results back from the CT scan of her neck and shoulder yet. They will provide us with a better picture of how extensive the disease has spread into her lymph nodes. We are planning to meet with Dr. Staddon to discuss this new headache development and the potential options we have as Kristine's breath becomes more and more restricted.

Our trip to the Herbalist was encouraging. Although, as I mentioned the regimen he has Kristine on is quite extensive. It will likely take us a few days to fully work into our daily routine. I will give more detail this Sunday, but let's just say I feel a little like a wizard in training at Hogwart's mixing potions made of rare herbs and roots. Though I frankly don't care if it's made out of toad's wart if it works.

Thanks for your patience.

Closed Doors, Open Doors

Kristine had to deal with another piece of disappointing and frustrating news this week. The rehabilitation center that she has been attending for physical and occupational therapy on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays informed her that her last session will be next Friday, May 1. They explained that she's not progressing enough to qualify for insurance coverage at this point. She still has several sessions left under our coverage for this year, but the sessions will only be approved by our insurance provider if she is showing continued signs of progress. Kristine's therapists told her that if she's able to strengthen her leg and/or arm muscles during her time off there is a chance that she could come back in a few months to continue therapy.

When Kristine was first paralyzed the neurosurgeon told her that whatever movement she would regain would likely occur within the first six months. Kristine has carried this statistic around with her since her brain surgery last October (about 6 months ago). So, of course, when the news came that she was no longer progressing physically, it hit her particularly hard. For Kristine it was like the window of opportunity had passed her by and her hopes of regaining mobility and independence disappeared along with it. Kristine will still attend aqua therapy two days a week to keep in shape and continue to work toward improving her physical condition.


After last week, we felt like we were out of options in Kristine's cancer fight. While we are still exploring conventional options like surgery, the available options are nothing more than a way to buy time. However, an interesting potential lead did surface though in the last few days. A credible customer of my father's gave him some information about an Herbalist in Ohio that helped a member of her family resolve his cancer -- he is still cancer free today after several years in remission.

Needless to say we have heard a lot of these claims before and have remained very skeptical. However, we are willing to take desperate measures these days, so we gave the man a call. It so happens that he'll be about an hour and a half outside of Philadelphia next week meeting with some other individuals. He put us in contact with a local man and his wife who are helping to organize and host his visit. When we contacted the family the man told us that they were first introduced to Mark (the Herbalist) when their son was diagnosed with a terminal cancer and given 2 months to live by John's Hopkins' cancer center. Without any information from us on Kristine's condition, he added that his son had a sarcoma that had metastasized into his lung. He claimed that in just 2 months his son's scans showed that the cancer had vanished from his lungs and in a total of 8 months his son had no readable traces of cancer left.

Of course, this all sounds too good to be true and I have a difficult time believing any of it. But for the time being it's providing us with a little more hope than we had yesterday and a little more inspiration to push us forward and fight. We set up our appointment for next Tuesday. We will be sure to keep you updated with the latest.

Scared Certain

On Wednesday, I spoke with Dr. Staddon's office about the results of Kristine's latest scans. Kristine prefers to avoid going in for office visits if she can these days.  The entire experience gives her a great deal of anxiety with little achieved by the end to provide any hope.  Dr. Staddon's nurse practitioner explained the results.  I'll get right to it.

First, the positive news.  The area in Kristine's brain where the tumor was resected shows no signs of new disease or abnormality.  The second tumor -- that which was treated by Gamma Knife radiation -- continues to shrink significantly. There are no new signs of additional disease in Kristine's brain. It's amazing that what we at one time thought was a certain death sentence has been downgraded to a secondary concern to monitor.   

On a more melancholy note, the tumors in Kristine's lungs continue to increase in size.  In October, there were five tumors identified.  The latest CT scan shows nine tumors of various sizes -- the smallest about 0.8cm x 0.6cm and the largest about 4.3cm x 2.3cm.  The growths have caused Kristine to cough more frequently and, occasionally, experience some shortness of breath when exerted (for example, after climbing stairs).  The doctor did not request scans of the lymph nodes, but we can assume that the same pattern is likely at play.  Especially since Kristine has been experiencing more pain in her shoulder and at least one tumor is clearly visible and larger than it was several months ago.  

Throughout our experience with this disease, Kristine and I have always had a plan.  When first diagnosed with cancer, we quickly got Kristine on an aggressive chemo regiment.  Once that was complete it was on to heart surgery to remove the remaining tumor.  Once it felt like Kristine was out of the woods, she got herself on a strict diet to build up her immune system.  Then the brain tumor hit and there was a strict rehabilitation schedule to follow and Gamma Knife surgery in which to put our faith.  But now we are facing what seems to be a dark tunnel, no options in front of us and no concrete plan to inspire us and give us hope.  We are both scared, but Kristine especially.  She has to live with the pain that reminds her constantly of her affliction.  It leaves the rest of us only to image how it feels to experience a lack of control over what's happening inside one's own body.  

So where do we go from here?  We continue to explore holistic treatments and are talking about getting serious about our diet again (we fell off the wagon in the last 6 months).  However, an important element in this equation is our continued and absolute belief that Kristine will prevail in this fight.  We sincerely believe that something will present itself to us as a solution to heal her. Just as when we thought brain cancer was the end of the road and a cutting edge treatment was employed to solve the problem, we fully believe that another solution will materialize.  It is our unwavering belief that drives us.  Not simply hope, but rather a certainty --however naive -- that we will soon see some light at the end of this dark tunnel and move on to the next chapter in our lives.

Laugh Therapy

On Friday, Kristine went for her 3 month scan appointments -- MRI of the head and CT of the chest.  It was the standard procedure.  First to Pennsylvania Hospital at 9 am for the CT.  Of course, we forgot to request the referral ahead of time so we had to call our primary care physician's office to process an emergency request (we've learned that it's best just to lie and get it done quickly then to try to explain why we didn't allow them the requisite 72 hours for processing).  The referral appeared in the Penn health system records within minutes.  The CT took about 40 minutes including the wait time.  

When we were through we wheeled across the street to Spruce MRI for Kristine's next scan. The staff there are all very friendly and know Kristine by name.  We wait for about 20 minutes before the nurse assisted Kristine into the back room for her procedure.  She asked Kristine if she would be listening to her usual radio station, B101, for the 30 minute scan.  Kristine replied to confirm the selection.  The morning scans were running behind schedule and I had a meeting to catch in Wilmington that afternoon -- 45 minutes away.  Our friend Simone was nice enough to meet Kristine a little early at the MRI office to pick her up so I could get on my way.  It was raining hard that day but they decided to go out to lunch after she was finished anyway. 

Kristine's cough has been steady.  It gets a little worse in the evening when she is tired and whenever she is tense.  She has not coughed up any blood since she was in Texas several weeks ago.  The lump on her right shoulder where cancer has developed in a lymph node looks to be stable in size from what we can see.  Although Kristine has noticed more pain in her right shoulder, arm and neck.  This is likely related to the swollen lymph node.  It could also be related to the extra work she continues to do on her right side to compensate for her left.  We will hear back from both the oncologist and the neurosurgeon this week to discuss the results of the scans. This is always the most stressful period -- waiting for results. 

On Sunday, the weather was nice.  Kristine and I wanted to get out of the house and enjoy the warm temperature.  We have found it difficult to use the wheelchair in the city.  The uneven concrete and brick walkways make for a jarring and unpleasant stroll for Kristine.  Just the thought of pushing her around reminds me of our escapes from the rehab center in late Fall last year.  She relished in the bumpy ride then.  Instead of barring the terrain by wheelchair, we opted to go for a ride around the city in the car.  So with the windows down and Rufus in the back, we drove through the streets of Philadelphia watching the locals with spring fever and listening to Jim Gaffigan's new comedy routine.  We laughed nearly the whole trip until the album was over and then headed home.  The laughter was good therapy for both of us.

Skype Me

Kristine and I made it back from Houston last week without any trouble. Kristine had mixed feelings about coming back home to Philly. She was sad to leave her parents and the relaxing lifestyle she was able to carried out with them. At the same time she knew she had to get back on a regular rehabilitation schedule if she is going to continue to make progress physically.

Kristine started rehab right away last week. Her first session was challenging. She said that she noticed some loss of muscle strength from a lack of regular exercise. Her therapist also pointed out that she had begun to compensate for her leg weakness when walking by swinging her left leg out instead of dragging it straight through -- a critical technique for regaining a more natural gait.

We are waiting to hear back from Dr. Staddon's office to confirm Kristine's appointments for scans. His office is a bit chaotic at the moment with his nurse practitioner out on maternity leave and his coordinator having been out on vacation. We will find out early this week when Kristine's scans are and by early next week we should have results to report.

Kristine also wanted me to let everyone know that she is open to talking to anyone who is interested on Skype. It's a lot easier for her to talk this way since she doesn't have to hold a phone up to her ear. If you are interested you can search for her name on Skype (she is the only Kristine Becker in Philadelphia) or email one of us for her address.
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Finally we both wanted to share this article with you all. It's about a recent study on diet and it's correlation to cancer and other disease. NPR NEWS LINK

An Uneventful Week

For me this is actually quite refreshing, but I really don't have much of anything to share this week. Unfortunately for you it makes for a pretty boring blog post.  

Kristine will be down in Houston for another week and a half. I'll be joining her and her parents starting later this week until the middle of next to fly her back home to Philadelphia.  She is doing very well, enjoying her time with her family and relaxing in the warm Texas sun before coming home to a routine of regular Physical Therapy. The blood that was coming up when she coughed has improved. It seems to be showing up in only very small amounts and only every couple of days versus everyday as before.

Other than that things have been entirely uneventful.  Hopefully after reconnecting with Kristine and spending time with her parents this next week I will have at least some good stories to tell. For now though I'll relish in the tranquility of an absolutely unremarkable and ordinary collection of days.  Of course, I say all this knowing that even uneventful weeks must feel anything but ordinary to Kristine in her current state.  

Until next week.  

In Her Shoes

When I asked Kristine what I should write about this week she replied, "shoes." That's right shoes.  With all that is going on in her life and all that you would expect her to be absorbed with during such a time, Kristine has but one thing on her mind. She is preoccupied by, if not obsessed with, the fact that she has an entire closet full of shoes and is restricted to just one pair of sneakers. This is, of course, because she needs added stability while she regains mobility in her left leg. However, this fact doesn't help abate her desire to buy and wear a variety of different types of footwear.   

I can't exactly put myself in her... ah-hum... shoes partly because I don't have her disability leaving my options completely open, but mostly because I can't even fathom having any sort of obsession with this attire for the feet. Even when I have had more than one pair of shoes at any single point in time (meaning two or maybe three if you include sneakers or flip-flops) I still gravitate toward that same familiar, established, no-need-to-break-them-in-any-more, comfortable pair of shoes.

For Kristine though the idea of wearing just a single pair day in and day out is torturous. She much prefers to have an assortment of different options at all times. When we travel anywhere at least half of our luggage is her shoes (this is no exaggeration). And buying shoes is like going on safari -- she hunts down her prized pair even if they just look good in her closet next to her others.

At the moment she can't even justify buying an additional pair of sneakers because the brace on her left ankle stretches the shoe out and she doesn't want to ruin another pair.  Knowing Kristine though this problem will not persist. Just like her dissatisfaction with the plain and unattractive canes she was finding eventually led her to a modern fashionable one from a London based company (switchsticks.com), she will again find a way to improve her look within the confines of her physical limitations.  

On a more serious note, ever since she has gotten over her respiratory infection Kristine has been coughing up a very small amount of blood almost ever day.  We talked to both our primary physician (who recently saw Kristine for her infection) and her Oncologist about this issue to better understand the severity. Both suggested that it could very well be related to the prior infection or to the frequent coughing that she has been having. Of course, given her current condition -- cancer in her lungs -- the blood is a cause for some concern.  Our Oncologist suggested that Kristine just watch it while she is in Houston to make sure it doesn't get any worse and to set up her 3 month check up scans as soon as she is back in Philadelphia later this month.  Neither doctor seemed overly alarmed given the very small amount of blood that is presenting, but just cautioned us to keep an eye out for more severe symptoms.  Otherwise Kristine is doing very well, feels great and is enjoying the warm Texas weather, even if she does have to enjoy it in sneakers. 

Taking It Easy

Kristine is doing very well down in Texas with her family.  The weather has been nice and warm giving Kristine the opportunity to take in some sun.  Those of us on the East Coast are surely jealous, especially given the impending snowstorm that is headed our way.  She has started on a couple of natural therapies that have made her pretty tired, but the extra rest is probably doing her some good. Her mother has been disciplined about stretching her left arm and shoulder.  It's critical that Kristine keep her muscles loose so that when she does regains movement she will maximize her range of motion.

We have started to talk to one another via Skype.  Skype is a free application that allows you to talk over the Internet at no cost with anyone else who is also on Skype.  You just talk through your computer's microphone and speakers or through a headset.  You can also use a webcam to view one another live, which is what Kristine and I have been doing.  It's so much better to see the person on the other end of the line, especially for someone who does not like talking on the phone much like me.   

I've posted a slide show of pictures in the upper right corner of the site.  You can either watch them here on the blog or you can click any of them to view a larger version of the slide show.  I know, it's about time I got some photos on the site.  Enjoy. 

Texas Size Surprise

I've had to remain pretty evasive about Kristine's plans to visit her family in Texas in the last few posts. Kristine and her three sisters have been planning to surprise their father, Jim, for his 65th birthday for some time(their mother Connie was, of course, in on it as well). They succeeded this past week when on Wednesday Colette and Stephanie caught him by surprise by showing up unannounced. Then again this past Friday, Kristine and Gretchen where waiting for him when he came home. He was floored and truly had no idea. It isn't often that the whole Becker family is together in one place. Especially under the current circumstances with Kristine in her current condition and Colette due with her first child soon. They are visiting all this week, a week likely filled with card games and lots of laughter. Although, as I understand it, the girls took over the living room and main television to watch the Oscars, relegating Jim to the bedroom for the evening.

Kristine will remain in Texas for the next few weeks. It's a great chance for her to relax in some warmer weather and focus on her alternative natural treatments. For me it is a much needed respite and a chance to regain energy before we begin our schedule all over again. Although a have to admit that I am already a bit bored all by myself. I'm getting a little taste of what her family and friends must go through being on the outside with only periodic updates wondering if she is OK. To an extent I think the discipline of a routine helps bring a feeling of control to an otherwise intractable situation.

Before Kristine left for Texas her cough, which previously was nagging but never serious, got much worse. In the week leading up to her trip her cough began yielding some fluid, a sign that she had likely contracted some kind of infection. Kristine went to our primary care doctor to get checked out. He was initially concerned that she might have pneumonia. However, subsequent x-rays proved otherwise. She was given an antibiotic to kill whatever was causing her illness and she has since noted that her cough has improved significantly.